How many children and grandchildren continue negative legacies? Whether it is character traits, behaviors, or line of work, it is not uncommon for children to follow in their parents’, or people they respect, footsteps. Children may not follow their dreams and make something more of their life because of what their parents and family demand. I’ve known of kids that did not go to college because their family discouraged it. The children gave up what was best because they believed they had no choice.
Breaking tradition and not going along with others’ expectations is not always easy, especially if it affects people we know, love and respect. It is difficult to stay motivated to change when everyone else has given up, never tried, and are content to go with the flow. This is not uncommon. However, the blessings of breaking the cycle are far superior to maintaining a life that hinders, hurts and holds us back.
Asa reigned in Judah for 41 years. He inherited a deplorable legacy. His parents and grandparents were idolaters. For years Asa’s family led the people of Judah away from the Lord to worship other gods (1 Kgs 14:21-24; 15:1-3). This angered God, and Asa’s family and the nation of Judah reaped the consequences (14:25-28; 15:6-7). When Asa became king he had a choice to make: follow his family or break the cycle. Thankfully, Asa broke the cycle (1 Kings 15:9-15). In order to bring the change God wanted, he had to remove his grandmother from her position of authority and destroy what his family built honoring other gods.
Yes, Asa rebelled against his family’s wishes. According to the world, you could say Asa dishonored his family. Sometimes, on the surface, honoring God may look like you are dishonoring your family and peers. Realistically, doing the right thing is the greatest honor one can bestow. People will not always like or understand the choices you make. You may even be resented because of your decision to break the cycle. Remember this: God is never against you breaking the cycle if it honors and respects Him.
Honoring God is the greatest blessing you can give your family and friends. Any cycle is worth breaking in order to bring that to fruition. It can be scary, and it may require a lot of change and sacrifice. Breaking the cycle may even lead to hurt feelings, anger and division. Be clear about why you are making the change, and lean on God every step of the way. When you second guess yourself, remind yourself that it is never wrong to do the right thing. Break the cycle!